What is a first look?
Gone are the superstitions that couples cannot see each other before the ceremony - there's more to the success of a marriage than that! However, everyone has their own visions for special moments on the wedding day, which is totally okay and the day should express the two of you.
A "first look" is is when the couple sees each other on their wedding day, before the wedding. It can be special, private (or not) and creative! We've had couples read letters back-to-back, and even behind a tree before seeing each other. It is a decision to talk through together.
To do, or not
Though most of our clients opt to do a first look (it makes the logistics), we work with many clients who keep the surprise at the altar.
Consider various aspect of your wedding to help you make that decision: time of year, time allotted for photos, logistics getting to/from the ceremony site, and what is important to the two of you.
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About Custom Weddings of Colorado and Wendee V.
Our purpose is to create small intimate wedding packages and elopements for our clients, offering you ease, peace, fun, quality photography, personal style, and a focus on marriage.
Their story: "Jason and I were setup by mutual friend. We were both older and had never married, but hoped to find that special person to build a family together. For us, it happened fast! After six months of dating, we found out I was pregnant. We now have a beautiful two-year-old. We love our little family: our motto - "three together!".
Wedding details: Jen and Jason contacted us three months prior to the wedding (yes, we can plan a wedding in as little as 5 days, or 5 months)! Breckenridge has always held a special place for them, having visited on family trips. Their priority was a simple, intimate outdoor setting with a scenic background. Family-focused and small: 6 adults, three kids.
Their story: "Ross and I met through mutual friends. We both have the same sense of humor and hit it off right away. We have a 5 year old golden retriever named Remi who is our pride and joy. In our spare time we enjoy being up at the lake with friends and traveling as much as possible. Ross also loves hunting and fishing; I love interior design and enjoy refinishing old (and cheap!) furniture. We had never really been interested in a large traditional wedding so deciding to do a destination wedding was a no brainer. We got engaged in Grand Lake, CO in 2016 so it just seemed fitting to come back to Colorado for the wedding. We truly love Colorado."
Wedding details: Even though Paula and Ross each had four bridesmaids and four groomsmen, they kept their wedding vibe very much elopement-style: easy with simplicity. They stayed in Breckenridge at a gorgeous vacation home with all their friends and family. For their ceremony overlooking Lake Dillon, instead of having the formalities of choreographed walk-ins, the couple asked us to play music in the background at arrival. Once everybody was situated, Paula entered the ceremony area. They identified the space by laying down a rug. All #20 guests, including the wedding party, stood around encircling the couple - one of the most intimate ceremonies we’ve seen!
Their story: "Our first date included a mountain bike crash and stitches! Our connection was clear from the start and had great promise for the future! We continued to build a relationship of love and trust that is second to none, overcoming life challenges and enjoying amazing adventures. From mountain biking and hiking to skiing and surfing we love living life together and are so excited to be getting married in Aspen... where we went on one of our first adventures!"
Wedding details: A “rouge” mountain wedding isn’t for every couple. But, for the adventurous Shiela and Nick - its PERFECT! Planning weddings at the Maroon Bells, if you don’t have the amphitheater booked, can be a little tricky. We waited until after you can drive in through the gates (instead of taking the required shuttle). There is a secret secluded spot off of a trail where you and your guests can gather around to do an exchange of vows. After the cermeony, guests returned to Aspen to celebrate at a restaurant featuring an outdoor patio. As Van Morrison sings, “There’ll be days like this!"
The Wedding Details
Planner: Wendee Vezzetti
Photography: Jeanine Thurston
Florist: Pink Posey Designs
Baker: La Patisserie Francaise
Hair: Full Circle Aspen
Intimate Wedding Package Budget: $4,900 to $5,600
Their story: "Jamie and I started dating about a year and half ago. We don't have a glitzy story - we met online! This our second marriage. We see in retrospect how our prior weddings were about the event; not the marriage. We want want a small wedding that is focused on our two families becoming one, not a wedding that is about "itself."
Wedding details: Oh boy, do we connect with how big weddings can get crazy and the focus of marriage is lost in the event. Katie, you speak our values! There is a reason why I (Wendee here) only specialize in the small intimate weddings and no longer plan the big bashes (said "goodbye" to those in 2012). They made it extra special by having a friend officiate. We planned a "rogue" elopement-style package for them and their 18 guests on top of Vail Mountain, which is when we purchase gondola tickets, ride to the top of the mountain, walk to a private spot, stand amidst nature and exchange vows with some of the most incredible views possible!
By Wendee Vezzetti
Mother, student, planner, gardener, mountain biker, entrepreneur, librarian, hiker, snowboarder, reader, dork, chocoholic, trail runner and creative.