All About First Looks: the pros and the cons and should you have one or not?

What is a first look or a first reveal?

Gone are the superstitions that couples cannot see each other before the ceremony - there's more to the success of a marriage than that!  However, everyone has their own visions for special moments on the wedding day, which is totally okay and the day should express the two of you.
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A "first look" is is when the couple sees each other on their wedding day, before the wedding.  It can be special, private (or not) and creative!  We've had couples read letters back-to-back, and even behind a tree before seeing each other.  It is a decision to talk through together.  

Pros to a first look

Cons to a first look

• Emotional - just between the two of you; relieves nerves
• More opportunity for the photographer to get "THE" shot
• More photos with the two of you together, instead of separate
• Can have one photographer (vs. two in separate places)
• About the only time the two of you will spend together, alone (okay - with the photographer too)
• Can get to socializing with the guests post-ceremony during the reception

• No grand surprise at the aisle
• No tradition - in an age where tradition is going to the wayside, the surprise is one way to hold on to tradition
• Ruined makeup from tears of joy and happiness (plan some time for touch-ups)
• The lighting for photography isn't always ideal before a wedding.  The best lighting is about 2-hours prior to sunset, which is usually when we try to schedule ceremonies.  

To do, or not

Though most of our clients opt to do a first look (it makes the logistics), we work with many clients who keep the surprise at the altar.   ​

Consider various aspect of your wedding to help you make that decision:  time of year, time allotted for photos, logistics getting to/from the ceremony site, and what is important to the two of you.  

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About Custom Weddings of Colorado and Wendee V.

Our purpose is to create small intimate wedding packages and elopements for our clients, offering you ease, peace, fun, quality photography, personal style, and a focus on marriage.  Wendee has worked with thousands of couples and whether or not you decide to have a first look, she can design logistics that will work well for your micro wedding day. 

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