How to Have a Non-Bridesmaid Wedding

Reasons why, tips to make it work, and photo ideas. 

More and more brides are opting to forgo the traditional bridal party and not have anyone stand up with them. Whether or not you are planning a large gathering of 150+ people or a small intimate wedding, skipping the wedding attendants (bridesmaids-men or groomsmen-women) is definitely a great option to keep things simple! If you want to skip the formalities of having a wedding party, here are several compelling reasons why and some ideas for how to incorporate your friends and siblings into your wedding day to honor them.

Photo by Andrea Flanagan.

BUDGET:  Yes, your bridesmaids would likely be picking up the tab for their dress, travel and accommodations, but think of all the other things that fall on the bride and groom – purchasing bouquets, bridal party gifts and other unanticipated party expenses. Not to mention the money it will save your friends!

FEWER OPINIONS AND OPPORTUNITIES FOR DISAGREEMENTS:  While your friends and family have your best interest in mind, it is simply unavoidable that the more people who are involved, the more opinions you will hear. Not to mention the melding of friends from different chapters of your life can open the door for a less than cohesive vibe.

ELIMINATES THE TENSION OF WHO WILL MAKE THE CUT:  Since high school you’ve grown apart from that third musketeer, but there would certainly be hurt feelings if the other one was included, same goes for sorority sisters, or in the awkward instance that you have become close with one sister-in-law to be and not the other. Going sans bridesmaids eliminates those uncomfortable conversations altogether.

SIMPLIFIED LOGISTICS AND PLANNING​:  If you are trying to achieve that low-key, low stress wedding, one of the easiest things you can do is limit the number of people directly involved in the day. After all, this day is ultimately about you and your partner. It can also take the pressure off of your friends, with no responsibilities, they can fully enjoy your awesome party!

Photo by Kathryn Kim Photography

Even without having a formal bridal party, there are still special ways that you can incorporate your friends into the wedding – invite them to get ready with you, ask someone to do a reading during the ceremony, or give a reception speech. All of these things are zero cost and relatively low stress to both you and your friends!

Photo by Kathryn Kim Photography.

Your photographer can still capture great moments with you and your girlfriends! Be sure to include those people in the shot-list for your photographer, in whatever groupings feel important to you. This will not only give you the photographic memories you’ll want in the future but will also help to make your friends feel included and loved.

At the end of the day, don’t get too hung up on tradition, it’s important that you do what feels right for you and your partner <3 ​

Photo by Colby Elizabeth Photography

Photo by Rebecca Marie Photography.

Photo by Andrea Flanagan